We are all born as an empty slate isn’t it? It takes a very long time until we start filling the slate ourselves , till then , its filled by everyone around you .almost everytime its our parents , soon enough it is our teachers , one day our friends also try to write on it . this is the part most of us normally wake up and start doing the writing ourselves.
When we grow up what do you think is the biggest factor that determines us? No points for guessing it’s the pressure exerted upon us . this pressure of course comes in many forms . to some , it’s the famous family that creates the pressure , to some it’s the soon progressing friends at fast pace,the monetary situation at household and the ideological manifestation of the house. No matter which unfortunate of the above category our situation falls into we hear every parent saying “my kid is so smart , he can do this and that already “. Right there begins your long association with this thing called speed .i mean how obsessed is the world with the ratio of distance covered to the time taken ?is it really necessary to make it an attribute of a 3 year old? Then with the entry of peers in our life there comes another term called potential .”my kid has a very high potential to make it there to the top”.till now everything is fine but right from here there starts a disparity between these beings which very recently started on an empty slate. The reason ? Bernoulli’s principle
Pressure + potential+ speed = constant
For someone with a high potential to operate at a very high speed the pressure shoud fall to a bare minimum . If the pressure exists to even a reasonable extent believe me it will come at the cost of potential or the speed decreasing
. fortunately , this equation shows the flipside too… if too much pressure is mounted on someone making him work faster that will surely bring down his natural potential & if too muh pressure is mounted regarding his existing potential that will bring down his speed for sure . so many times it might have happened that someone comes to you with a piece of work saying only u can do it , that only you have it in u to complete it and u literally go blank on seeing the problem.
So the kid , lets come back to the kid …. Somewhere down the line he is going to come across the Bernoulli principle and feel cheated . I mean he had the right to juggle with his own 3 parameters dint he ? but still he dint get to exercise it . so what happens next ? he becomes resentful to his parents which is awesomely complemented by growth of hormones . everyday he feels more and more distasteful of the house he lives in( any of the house not necessarily single type ). The fights grow , the answers become sharper , rock music enters life and most often even beer and cigarettes. This is the state if not well handled goes on to become the ultimate mistake of his life . what are u thinking? Is there an equation for this ? yes there is : Newtons law of viscosity .
“Shear between layers of a fluid is varies directly with the velocity gradient and inversely with their separation”
Now come on , don go that close button just because I brought in big terms like shear and gradient and all that . what is shear? In simplest of raw human force it’s the force that tears apart a structure . Can u ever differentiate layers of a fluid with the naked eye ? well that’s how close we are to our parents. Velocity gradient is simply the pace with which your life is running to your parents life .when this gradient(difference) is very high it means two cases :
Your parents have a fast paced workaholic life which makes it impossible for you to spend time and talk it out
You are so involved with friends all day that the talking never really happens .
Whatever the case is one thing is for sure . the gradient has to come down . until then its impossible for the shear force to come down . of course , there is another solution to it . due to some reason or the other if the gradient cannot come down we can always increase the distance between the layers . I believe that when once u increase the distance for a while , which in this case could be going off on a vacation or most often going out for under-grad college for four years , the shear , most certainly comes down . who says that all fights should be brought to the table and fought hard with words . sometimes a little silence and little distance is all that is needed .
The kid , is no longer a kid . he is dude now . one day he was walking by like always and he sees a scorcher of a beauty in his college . no no its not a bike or a car . it’s the other obvious : a girl. No matter how close you are currently with any person go back and try to recollect your first moment with them , u will end up knowing that it’s the first smile of the eyes that sealed the deal . smile not even of the lips ok? Of the eye. The DEAL as I call it is like an open ticket . most often it ends up in special friendship and with one person it may go on as a journey of life .in a case as simple as this we make so many attempts ! we look , we analyse every move , every talk . we always want the perfect person . obsession with perfection I may call it . but yet , look around you , most of the technological progress is based upon one subtle assumption . that there is an IDEAL and there is a REAL . ideal is always described as the the one with one hundred percent efficiency and real is supposed to match it as much as possible . the measure of course is called efficiency . further more using complex calculus we arrive at one condition which gives maximum efficiency and none more than that !mind u none more than that ! and sanely enough we accept this result and are happy with our technologies .
Now if the material world itself has given up on reaching the ideal , most of times it gives silly reasons like heat loss due to radiation and friction and all .. I mean come on!! How can we ? we living in the most complex set of emotions and situations and millions of people words, thoughts governing our outcome (other than the big one!, ourself), expect the ideal from our partner .?to some it’s a partner , to some it’s god !! we fail to recognize that they are the ideal that we choose and all we can do is measure up to some level of efficiency . like robin Williams says “ you are not perfect kid , n let me save u the suspense , this woman is not perfect either . but what matters is whether or not you are perfect for each other . the only way you are gonna find that out is by givin it a shot”
Well when I thought of all this , its not the comparison’s of human emotions to science that fascinated the most its something nearly opposite . history says man built boats seeing aquatic creatures and built airplanes based on the principle of bird flight . is there a point somewhere when we can go so far into technology that we can fix our emotional problems thru a formula . by emotional I include all mind based probs not necessarily soapy problems . its like we correlate one emotion to one parameter which makes sense almost all the time , we bring in calculus and differentiate it with respect to time and bang ! we have a condition for maximum efficiency !
Or shall I call it happiness instead of efficiency ?
